In this wasteland where I'm livin'
There is a crack in the door filled with light
And it's all that I need to get by
In this wasteland where I'm livin'
There is a crack in the door filled with light
And it's all that I need to shine (
NeedtoBreathe-Wasteland)
Lessons learned, life is hard. Sometimes I want to give up, sometimes I want to scream and shout and say, this isn't fair! And other times life is amazing and I take for granted what I've been given. This includes mistakes, regrets, fears, and failures. All of these things: the good, the bad, the ugly have made me into a seasoned woman. But it wasn't easy getting there.
I can't remember the first time I made a mistake or the first time life was hard. In a world filled with sin, these are learned naturally. We are human. There is a cost for every decision we make in life. And a seasoned woman recently taught me to accept the things I cannot change & "it is what it is". Did I have the same perspective growing up as I do now? Probably not. Did I prepare for seasons of turmoil and hurt the same as I prepared for seasons of joy? Probably not. These are valuable lessons that only age, time, and faith can allow you to learn.
I am 29. Does that still qualify me as a "young woman"? Sometimes I can tell that I'm getting older: napping is a must, early bed-time, recovery from workouts takes longer, I can live in sweatpants and slippers, and I'd much rather choose a night in rather than going out. These are the things in my head that I've associated with getting older. But along with these silly things, I've noticed a change in my heart.
Honestly, I remember being stubborn and moody. I remember letting stupid things get to me. I remember being critical and thinking that it was the end of the world if a guy didn't date me or if I wasn't married by now. Looking back, even just a few years I've realized that these are the things that can swallow my essence of joy. These are the things that can harden my heart. I know now that having joy through all circumstances can change the outcome.
The difference in the way that I look at the good, the bad, the ugly is not only different, but the way that I react to these seasons is different. Having a solid foundation and preparation for these times is important as a woman. Have I been broken? Yes. Have I fallen down? Yes. Have I encountered trials? Yes, just yesterday...But instead of wallowing in these things that are only temporary, I've accepted them as a part of the whole plan. They've not only changed my views, but changed me.
Let me take a second to go over what seasoned means when used as a
verb:
9. to heighten or improve the flavor of (food) by adding condiments, spices, herbs, or the like.
10. to give relish or a certain character to
11. to mature, ripen, or condition by exposure to suitable conditions or treatment:
I can attest that with the good, the bad, the ugly, also comes maturity and character building. I'm definitely not who I once was. But I'm also thankful for the things that I've been brought through. By no means am I a perfect woman, far from it. But I am real and I want to be a catalyst of growth and forward-thinking. I want to show others that a road-block is not the end, it's simply an opportunity for growth.
Look around you. Find women that can provide mentor-ship and growth in your life. Surround yourself with the seasoned. Throw some spice in your life.
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My mom, my mentor. |